Dating and the Genetic Roots of Attraction
Remember that the below described research is just an example. You can find on the Internet literally hundreds of serious scientific studies that revealed genetic reasons explaining attraction in both long-term and casual relationships.
The bottom line is this:
If PUA philosophy was true, then all patterns in human mating would involve skills, status and the forth – not genes.
The Science Behind Attraction
Dr. Alex Wise, Loveawake.com's scientific advisor and creator of the patented matchmaking system, after years of studies reached the conclusion that certain personality types go well with each other. These types depend on chemicals that washed your brain in prenatal life, such as testosterone or estrogen. Helen Fisher has examined thousands of couples during her career. For more theoretical background read in particular "Why Him? Why Her?" by Helen Fisher.If chemicals that affect the fetus during pregnancy are responsible for people's choices when it comes to long-term relationships, then how do we know that our genes don't play the most important role also when short-term relationships spark up? Attractive women are very picky even when they look for casual relationships.
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Why Genes Trump Game
There is a lot of scientific literature about hormones, physical attractiveness, facial appearance and so on. The PUAs would have to eliminate all other possible explanations of female behavior to prove seduction actually works.
It can be a matter that the female brains examines in a few seconds without the woman being fully aware of. She is only aware that she has got a feeling that this guy is "her type." There are various hypothesis that may explain how the human brain can detect "types":
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it could be the shape of the face – not beauty, but the shape and proportions,
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or scent – the pheromones theory,
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or even tone of voice.
You have no influence on any of these. Your game can be smooth, but she will reject you anyway if the two of you don't match. As a man, a visualizer, I personally believe in the hypothesis about facial appearance.
In the quiz you have to take after signing as a member at Loveawake.com, there is a question on finger lengths. It is scientifically established that 2nd to 4th digit ratio is a sign of the amount of testosterone that acted in the uterus.
The below website has various useful information on digit ratios, including this interview with Dr. Fisher:
"RT: What is this thing about your fingers? It's on the Loveawake questionnaire.
HF: It's called 'digit ratio' (finger length ratio). In the womb – during pregnancy – the brain is washed over by estrogen and testosterone. If you have a lot more testosterone than estrogen in the womb, it is going to build a longer fourth finger than pointer finger. If you've got a lot more estrogen in the womb, the pointer finger will be longer.
RT: What does it say about your personality?
HF: If you have more testosterone in the womb and you have a longer fourth finger, you're more likely to have musical ability, mathematical abilities, to be an engineer or architect or good at computer programming. You tend to have poorer social skills but be direct, decisive, ambitious, competitive."
Why Seduction Can't Override Biology
Fisher's findings are impossible to combine with the ideas of the seduction community. The Casanovas out there believe it's all about skills, which anyone can master. Dr. Fisher has evidence that specific chemical substances in our brain are behind our choices. Again, scientific data contradict website testimonials and pseudo-scientific concepts loosely based on pop-psychology and evolution theories. Mumbo jumbo which anyone can shape anyway they want, since there are no scientific data, no experiments, no numbers that support their ideas, no nothing, only loose concepts. Or did Dr. Fisher only study those thousands of couples in which the man was an "AFC"? Couldn't they afford that 10 bucks to buy a book with all the seduction crap?
Sexual attraction is a drive. Therefore, it is strictly connected with genes, so you can't control it with any tricks involving behavior or attitude. It is exactly the other way around: social skills do have some influence on your results, but they are subordinated to genotypes.
Don't be discouraged by the cover of "Why Him? Why Her?" Although it refers to romantic love, the concept of personality types certainly explains a lot about casual relationships as well – if you are still not convinced, read the details in the end of section "Alpha-Excuses."